Wednesday, November 1, 2017

Gratitude Challenge!

This November, I'm hosting a gratitude challenge on my Facebook page at:

I'm hoping it will help me set the right tone for Thanksgiving and remembering all that I have to be grateful for.

Day 1 is to sign the pledge and share in the comments why you've decided to take the challenge and what you hope to gain from it.

Get it here:
I hope you will consider joining me in giving thanks over the next 21 days. The tasks are simple and quick. But I think it will be a huge benefit for me and everyone who participates!

Tuesday, October 3, 2017

Making your way in the world today...

Takes everything you've got!

I started to post my latest workout pics this morning with a question--do you love to work out or is it a chore?

And I was going to tell you all about how I used to think it was a chore. Get dressed, drive to the gym, hope an elliptical was open, get on said elliptical for 35 minutes. Snooozeee.
Pretend to stretch as I scoped out the weight machines and dumbbells to see if there was anyone intimidating out there. Pretend to stretch some more. Go grab some random dumbbells. Do some things with them. Leave. Yawwwwwnnnn.

I was all excited to tell you how there's a much better way. And you can join me NOW to start getting results....ready to hit "POST" when a CNN news update flashed across my phone.

"The ridiculous reason Congress won't even debate gun laws"
"Dr. Sanjay Gupta's dire warning on Puerto Rico"

So many people suffering. And here I am playing with a medicine ball in my yard.
I am vapid.
I am self-absorbed.
I am vain.
This is useless.
Who cares?
Why am I doing this when so much hurting is going on in the world?
How can I just sit here in the sunshine when others' needs are so great?

But then, the angel on my other shoulder reminded me that the mean girl whispering those things in my ear is a b*tch. And she doesn't know what she's talking about.

Grant me the courage to change the things that I can.

I serve others best when I come from a position of strength.
I am strongest when my head is screwed on right and I'm taking care of myself.
It starts with me. And you. Each of us individually.

I've got to put on my own oxygen mask first.
And that's what I focus on.

How I can be strong when things are rough. How I can be a role model to my kids. How I can continue to work my businesses to earn income so that I can donate. How I can fill my own soul up with so much goodness that it pours out of me and maybe, just maybe, hits the right person at the right time.

It's not vapid or shallow or vain to take care of yourself. It's self-absorbed NOT to--when you just cave in and hide on that couch with that glass of wine like I used to do.

I can't control natural disasters. I can't control whether a mentally ill person harms someone else or goes to get treatment instead. I can't control whether our lawmakers will choose to seek justice or line their pocketbooks. I can't control who choses to educate themselves on the topics that matter in the world. I can't control much except ME.

I choose to take care of myself--body, mind, and spirit. I choose to share that with others and encourage them to do the same. I choose hope. And sunshine. And love.


Wednesday, September 6, 2017

On fear and moving forward

I quit my job.
I quit my job.
My "full-time, I went to school for this and built a career out of it" J.O.B.

It was an important job.
One that made me feel fulfilled, useful, and important as well.
It was the kind of job they make TV shows out of.
It was everything I knew for the last 12 years. It had become ME.

I used to have a quote on my office bulletin board by a running coach and Boston Marathon winner named John J. Kelley. "The things we do should consume us. If they don't our lives won't have any meaning." (Here is an amazing article about him: Runner's World)

I was consumed. And I loved it.
My career there was influenced by great mentors. I was surrounded by people who are like family to me. They inspired and guided me to be a better lawyer and to seek justice at every turn.

But in being consumed by it, I started to lose myself and my happiness. Who was I when the job I loved so much gave me a pit of despair in my stomach every Sunday night. And that despair translated to a short fuse with my family, a sour disposition, and using drinking as an avoidance technique. None of it was good anymore.

And now that I've quit. Who the hell am I?

"'s no easy feat to let go of a dream (and identity) you've held for most of your life. I had built my self-worth around what I did for a living. I had let it define me, so when I finally cut the cord and closed the door, I entered a full-blown identity crisis." (Melissa Ambrosini)

If I wasn't a lawyer and prosecutor, who was I?
Who am I?

That's a hard question to answer, isn't it? We tend to define ourselves by the roles we fill in life:

But who are you before those things and who are you after? What gets carried with you and how does that impact what you do in this world?

I'm still sorting it out. And I have to be OK with that.

I think, in a way, I'm mourning the loss of something that I used to be. But as I move to accepting it and regaining my feelings of worth and my identity without that job that used to consume me, I feel a desire to be consumed by something else--an unstoppable mission to help other people live a life they are proud of. I want everyone to wake up in the morning excited about what the day will bring. I want people to feel joy in moving their bodies and filling themselves with powerful energy-giving fuel. I want people to be at their best so that they can pass it along to others who might be hurting and struggling--whether that is emotionally, physically, spiritually, or financially.

I do not have much figured out, but I feel joy in learning.
I want to inspire others to close their eyes and jump. (As scary as it may be!) To chose a path, make a decision and stop drifting along, letting things happen to them.

I want others to live free from fear, doubt, and scarcity. I want love, intention, and abundance. I want to lay my head on the pillow each night knowing I got the most I could out of the day and served others with an open heart.

And where that takes me...well, we shall see. But making a scary decision that wasn't based in fear was one of the best things I've ever done. I don't have it figured out. It isn't all sunshine and rainbows and coffee on the porch. But better the unknown with a clear mission than the regret of never having taken a chance. Better to fly and fall and get back up again than to sit in the nest waiting and wondering what could be out there.


Sunday, September 3, 2017

Fall Soccer Mom Meal Plan

It's quick, it's simple, and you can prep it in no time! 

A 1200-1500 calorie meal plan using the 21 Day Fix container system to the rescue. 
As a reminder--
Green is veggies, purple is fruits, red is protein, yellow is carbs, blue is healthy fats, and orange is for seeds and dressings. Each day you get:

  • 3 green containers
  • 2 purple containers
  • 4 red containers
  • 2 yellow containers
  • 1 blue container
  • 1 orange container
  • 2 teaspoons

Please note that I re-arranged the timing of the snacks shown based on my schedule! Do whatever floats your boat. 

Breakfast:12 almonds and Shakeology blended with ½ cup blueberries, water, and ice (not shown) (½ purple, 1 red, 1 blue)
Snack 1: Whole-grain rice cake with 2 tsp. peanut butter (½ yellow, 2 tsp.)
Lunch: Mason jar salad with 2 Tbsp. vinegar-based dressing, 1 cup cherry tomatoes, ½ cup bell peppers, ¼ cup onion, ¾ cup cooked chicken breast (about 4 oz.), ¾ cup baby spinach (2 green, 1 red, 1 orange)
Snack 2: Baked Oatmeal Cups with Blueberries with 2 hard-boiled eggs or ¾ cup plain low-fat Greek yogurt (Not shown) (½ purple, 1 red, 1 yellow)
Dinner: ¾ cup seasoned ground turkey with 1 cup sautéed zucchini, and 1 cup strawberries (1 purple, 1 green, 1 red) ** Turn this into dinner for your family by adding whole grain pasta and jarred pasta sauce. Remember to watch the sugar content in the sauce. 
Snack 3: 1½ cups air-popped popcorn (½ yellow)

Breakfast: A handful of cashews and  Shakeology blended with ½ frozen banana, water, and ice (not shown) (1 purple, 1 red, 1 blue)
Snack 1: 1/2 cup apple slices with 2 tsp. peanut butter (1/2 purple, 2 tsp.)
Lunch: Roast Beef Salad: 1 cup lettuce, ½ cup cherry tomatoes, ½ cup shredded carrots, 3 oz. deli roast beef, dressing (2 green, 1 red, 1 orange)
Snack 2: Baked Oatmeal Cups with Blueberries with 2 hard-boiled eggs or ¾ cup plain low-fat Greek yogurt  (½ purple, 1 red, 1 yellow)
Dinner:  Slow Cooker Beef Chili (1 green, 1 yellow, 1 Red, 1/2 teaspoon) 
Sunday: I usually give myself a little grace and eat leftovers, a coffee drink treat (count as a yellow!), and sample while I meal prep. I still count my containers, just not worrying if I don't hit them all.